The community is so small but yet has a huge population. I think it is because a lot to gay men deal with being depressed most of the time and when they get hold to a potential they want to either take it all the way fast, or they may feel if they don't then someone will and bump their spot. Most gay men are just freak ass hell anyway, I fucked my ex the first night I meet him and we we strong eight years. It all about looking beyond the bullshit, keeping a open relatioship. communications, and not having so many male gay friends.