Because nothing says “lets go back to your place” like a toned, worked-out brain, check out some of these more cerebral gatherings on tap this weekend. Seattle and Washington D.C. are both set to kick off their gay film fests, Reel Affirmations and Three Dollar Bill Cinema. In San Francisco, you can queer your mind at, you guessed it, the first annual Queer Yo Mind Conference, with workshops on themes like building community and queer activism (and don’t worry, a fun variety show to follow). In New York, mix two parts booze to one part brain at SPANK Live, which promises “jaw dropping shows, salacious readings and HOT music.” Sounds good to us…

To find events near you, head over to the GayCities Event Guide and type your city in. Have a great weekend!