gay married man

1. 
   Totti
   

   hi all
   Well this is my first post in this sweet forum. I’m 29 years old and I discover myself 2 years ago and I’m married. No one knows about me being a gay because I came from a very Conservative society. So at the begging I was fighting the gay feeling then I surrender to what I am and decided to enjoy my life. Even though I’m having affairs yet I’m enjoying it. Now the summer is coming and I need to travel with my wife and she is having no idea about me being a gay so any advice where to go and enjoy both life’s being married and gay life!

   Thank you all
   Yours
   Tootti

   Posted 4 months ago #
2. 
   JhonieAppleseed37
   

   WOW,, that is a very heavy load to carry! (No "pun"???? intended)!
   Do not tell your wife yet! First hate to say, it would wreck your marrage!
   She could, would file for devorce use it for the reason.

   Second, I would find out if this is just a sort of passing thing? If you go back? Your family might turn there backs on you.

   Third, there are a lot of "husslers" out there. Ask what they are, somthing like blackmail. Outing?

   Also, hate to say, when you have a "body fluid exchange". With anybody, that little rubber sheath does not protect you that much!

   This is like the way your friends, and family might look at you?
   http://23.media.tumblr.com/meJGABq7wokmbhf3ALXPJkaLo1_500.jpg

   Posted 4 months ago #
3. 
   Totti
   

   thank u so much for the reply :**

   Posted 4 months ago #
4. 
   Rasqy
   

   Just be patient don't be anxious it might wreck ur marriage and it won,t be easy starting allover again,it's hard 2 decide just be free and u will see urself through.

   Posted 4 months ago #
5. 
   JackGoff
   

   TELL THEM! It's only right and fair, Jesus Christ! Seriously though cutie, you need to be real with yourself. Then an-hero.

   Posted 4 months ago #
6. 
   chrisbiguy
   

   I am going through much the same experience. I have decided to give myself some time and to find out if this is just a phase or if there is something to it?

   Saying anything to your wife would introduce something into your marriage that might be difficult to ever get out. For both of your sakes, say nothing until you are certain.

   Make sure you explore your gayness in a way that she is protected, both from the possibility of becoming infected or finding out second hand you have been having an affair with a guy. Nothing would hurt her more than having a stranger in the super market tell her about your boyfriend. Diseases can be cured emotional pain lives on much longer.

   Posted 4 months ago #
7. 
   harrypaul
   

   Well chrisbiguy i don't agree with you I don't think that any woman or wife like that her husband like boys she never bear that ?

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   Posted 4 months ago #
8. 
   bordelon
   

   I have never had a sexual act with a man. But the thoughts are there. I can't get having a reltionship out of my mind. But I too am married. I'm not sure where this is going or what I'm going to do. I know one thing, Craigslist is not an option. I was hoping to meet someone, but don't know where to start, or if I even should. Please steer me in a direction.

   Posted 4 months ago #
9. 
   bordelon
   

   Well two have passed and no reply. I thought at least I'd get some encouragment.Good bye!

   Posted 3 months ago #
10. 
    MeBiYou
    

    Hi, I'm 52 and have been Bi since I was 12. No one in my family knows. I have been married for 27 years and my wife does not know.I have been REAL safe about it. I took my time to "feel out" my close frinds and found one that is thinking along the same lines as me. we have been together a number of times and we can not be together and still keep it cool. I know from my experiance that going to Gay Steamrooms can bring you close to having a sexual encounter with another man, but it is all up to you. Be CAREFUL, and set and KEEP your boundries.I have been with my friend for the real intimate times and with other guys for the "hands only" times, the "may I watch" times, and shower times...BUT KEEP YOUR BOUNDRIES" Let your "partner' know from the start that these are the comfort zones for you and you will stick to them and in the 45 years I've been Bi. only once did I have a small problem and it was quickly straightened out.Jhonieapple and Chrisbiguy are right, TAKE YOUR TIME!!! Most important BE CAREFUL, and be SAFE....

    Posted 2 weeks ago #
11. 
    look4gay69
    

    First, it is normal and healthy to be bisexual. It is not a healthy relatiomship to hide your sexuality. You don't need to tell your family, but you need to tell your wife and let her decide if she wants to share you and share the risk of desiease. I told my wife when we dated that I was bi, but I wasn't seeing men, but I fantisizes with her openly. Five years ago she told me it was OK for me to practice my gay desires, but we would not have sex anymore. That was perfect for me, and I love my wife more because of her willingness to let me be gay and stay married.

    Posted 2 weeks ago #
12. 
    supersaiyan
    

    If you feel like you really want to tell her, try to find out what she thinks about gay people etc. subtly and figure if you realy want to tell her anymore...Otherwise just make sure you have a reason (valid) for going out t do your stuff. It wrecks a girl when she finds out about something she thinks she should know about, and hysterical ladies have never really made a man's day.

    Posted 1 day ago #

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